Modern culture has made dating and socialising a conundrum for many.
Loneliness is widespread. Studies show dating is harder than ever before.
Millions scratch their heads pondering how to develop a meaningful social and dating life following the lack of connection they experience in their societies.
I don’t like promoting quick fixes on this blog as most of the ones out there are empty marketing spiel.
But there is a silver bullet when it comes to socialising and dating: moving abroad.
Picture two scenarios.
In the first, a guy works relentlessly on the most important factor towards his social and dating life in his locality—himself. Here in his home country, he hones in on his most prominent weakness when it comes to dating and socialising. Perhaps that’s his self-confidence in social situations. Perhaps it’s his manner of speech. Or perhaps it’s a non-verbal aspect of communication. Either way, he works on it to perfection until it’s no longer a hindrance.
In the second, the guy doesn’t work on any aspect of personal development but simply relocates to another country. He might not be improving any single feature of himself but he’s just as active in putting himself out there to meet people as scenario one.
Which scenario do you think is going to yield the most results?
You’ve guessed it: the answer is the second one.
This will surprise a lot of people. How can a simple geographical shift lead to better outcomes than perfecting a crucial component of one’s social skills?
With a little reflection, the answer becomes intuitive.
Most people aren’t completely devoid of a particular aspect of socialising. Exempting outlier cases, most people can form coherent sentences, make themselves understood and are more or less presentable in their appearance and mannerisms when in the vicinity of others.
But perfection of a particular weakness when it comes to social skills in your locality has an upper limit. Even if you could wave a magic wand and transform it from a weakness to a strength, you’re only going to get so far. If your weakness when socialising is speaking at too high a pitch due to nerves, finessing your voice down to a nice timbre will be a fantastic improvement but it won’t triple or quadruple your social and dating life outcomes.
Yet moving abroad can.
If you move to a country where you can leverage your exoticness, you can use the power of geoarbitrage in your favour to generate greater social and dating momentum. Standing out positively in a new milieux increases the receptivity you have among potential suitors and the novelty factor you have from being a foreigner overseas can work wonders for your social and dating life.
As moving abroad is one of the most drastic changes you can make in your life since you’re altering your environment, it’s the quickest way to boost your lifestyle design outcomes bar none. It’s quite profound when you think about it—since we can now fly to anywhere in the world within 24 hours, it’s no exaggeration to say that in less than a day you can 2x, 3x or even 5x your social and dating life overnight simply by relocating.
Combine personal development and geoarbitrage for the best social and dating life
Show me someone who’s relocated abroad after being stuck in a quagmire with their hometown social life and I’ll show you someone who’s transformed their social situation.
Dating apps are the bane of many men and women’s existences in their locality but you only have to go overseas to instantly notice how much better your matches become from standing out as a foreigner.
Social circles stagnate for most natives as they get older but moving abroad forces your hand in meeting other people and you diversify your social life whilst sticking out with your unique selling point.
There’s only so much you want to play life on hard mode. Remaining in a place where you don’t get ROI from your social and dating life efforts might be good as a training exercise but the real key to social success is positioning yourself well. The people whose dating and social lives are on easy mode go where they’re treated best.
Understand that moving abroad is no substitute for activity. Whether you’re working on yourself or relocating to better your social and dating life, the key in both scenarios is being active.
Don’t get me wrong, working on your communication and social skills is hugely beneficial. I’m not promoting a sacrifice of one for the other. If you’re someone who knows they have personal aspects to work on, it still pays enormously to improve your physique, style, self-confidence, and verbal & non-verbal communication skills. These will have the added bonus of making you a better conversationalist and more appealing person to be around in general. And nothing beats being proactive in your social and dating life—putting yourself out there frequently to meet new people.
Combine both together and transform your social and dating life as a result.
Summary
Dates that lead to nowhere and struggles in meeting likeminded people are common problems in contemporary societies. People without social and dating abundance do their best to squeeze what they can from the people they’re surrounded by in their hometowns but often to little avail. You can only meet people halfway.
Yet there is a meta solution: relocating abroad.
Relocating to another country leverages the power of geoarbitrage. In a new locality, your uniqueness can yield orders of magnitude improvements in your social and dating life from having new people respond to you better. Even perfecting a personal aspect of your communication style cannot generate such a high ROI.
Working on communication skills and other personal development aspects is still worthwhile. Combining it in a place where you’re treated well is a life changer.
Liked this post? If it’s stoked your interest in relocating abroad, you might find this article on why moving abroad isn’t such a big deal helpful. My article on decision making for going abroad such as how to choose which country best aligns with you may also prove useful.
If you have any questions or want further advice on generating a social life abroad or getting dates with people you want, message me on my Contact page and I’d be happy to provide specific advice tailored to your situation.
